Digital life
Twelve positions about your phone, what gets posted and what is kept, each with its weight.
- Questions
- 41
- 10 min
- Twelve stated positions — nothing scored, nothing inferred
What this is
No validated instrument sits behind this one, because none exists — the questions were written here, and the research was used to choose which ones to ask rather than to say anything about your answers. What that research supports is modest and worth stating at its real size. In a meta-analysis of partner phubbing (Ni and colleagues, Frontiers in Psychology, 2025), the association between feeling phubbed by a partner and relationship satisfaction was r = −0.22 across 30 samples and 9,040 people — real, small, and drawn almost entirely from cross-sectional data that cannot say which way it runs. A dyadic diary study found the effect attaches to the perception rather than to the behaviour: a partner's own reported phone use predicted nothing, while feeling phubbed predicted lower relationship quality on the day — and that day-level effect did not hold two months later either (Carnelley, Vowels, Stanton, Millings and Hart, Computers in Human Behavior 147, 2023). Sharenting is the one subject here where the person most affected is not the one answering: the reviewed harms are documented — a permanent footprint the child did not choose, image misuse, conflict with the grown child over posts they never agreed to — the studies behind them are small and largely descriptive, and in one survey of 1,460 Czech and Spanish parents, around four in five had posted pictures of their child while only about one in five had asked the child first. For group chats, for what should never be typed at all, and for what people want done with their accounts afterwards there is no useful evidence whatever; those questions are here because they get settled by default rather than because anything is known about them. Nothing on this page is scored, inferred, or turned into a number.
Where it comes from
written down, not impliedTwelve stated positions — nothing scored, nothing inferred
The topics come from four research areas: phones at the table, sharing children online, partners monitoring each other, and what happens to accounts after death. No published scale from those fields is used; each question asks for a household rule.
Written for this app
Nothing here is measured, so reliability and validity do not apply. It records the positions you state, how much each matters to you, and why.
Further reading
- Roberts, J. A., & David, M. E. (2016). My life has become a major distraction from my cell phone: Partner phubbing and relationship satisfaction among romantic partners (opens in a new tab). Computers in Human Behavior, 54, 134–141original source
- Ni, N., Ahrari, S., Zaremohzzabieh, Z., Zarean, M., & Roslan, S. (2025). A meta-analytic study of partner phubbing and its antecedents and consequences (opens in a new tab). Frontiers in Psychology, 16, 1561159review
- Carnelley, K. B., Vowels, L. M., Stanton, S. C. E., Millings, A., & Hart, C. M. (2023). Perceived partner phubbing predicts lower relationship quality but partners' enacted phubbing does not (opens in a new tab). Computers in Human Behavior, 147, 107860critique
Read the result as a structured version of what you said, not as a measurement of you.
Why these questions carry no evidence
Every questionnaire in this app writes its own items, because the framework behind an instrument is usually public while the published questionnaire is copyrighted. That is the honest way to build it and it has a cost worth stating plainly: reliability and validity belong to a specific set of questions given to a specific group of people, not to the name of the idea behind them. These questions have never been given to a sample, have no norms, and have no evidence that they measure what they are named after.