Boundaries
Twelve things about your door, your sleep and your money, each with the weight you put on it.
- Questions
- 36
- 9 min
- Twelve stated positions — nothing scored, nobody assessed
What this is
There is no validated instrument behind this one and there could not be: what you would lend a brother, and how late is too late before you want a message, are not psychological constructs. They are facts about how you live. The word «boundary» reaches this page from two directions — family systems theory, where it describes where one part of a family stops and another begins, and a self-help literature that has produced no outcome study worth citing — so it is used here as an ordinary English word with nothing claimed for it. Nothing is scored, banded, or compared to anybody. One thing is worth saying plainly rather than in a footnote: everything you write here is either a statement about your own conduct or a request, and a request is something the other person is free to decline. That rule is why no question here asks you to set a rule over another adult — not who they may see, not who they may write to, not where they are. Where an answer describes an arrangement you did not agree to, this page records it as exactly that and does not call it a preference. And nothing on this page reads your answers for signs of anything.
Where it comes from
written down, not impliedTwelve stated positions — nothing scored, nobody assessed
“Boundary” is meant in its everyday sense, with family-systems therapy (Minuchin, 1974) only as background. What this deliberately does not ask was decided with the UK guidance on controlling or coercive behaviour: it records your household's rules and never assesses anyone.
Written for this app
Nothing here is measured, so reliability and validity do not apply. It records the positions you state, how much each matters to you, and why.
Further reading
- Minuchin, S. (1974). Families and Family Therapy (opens in a new tab). Harvard University Pressoriginal source
- Home Office (2023). Controlling or coercive behaviour: statutory guidance framework (opens in a new tab). GOV.UK (statutory guidance issued under section 77 of the Serious Crime Act 2015)original source
- Crown Prosecution Service (2023). Controlling or Coercive Behaviour in an Intimate or Family Relationship (opens in a new tab). CPS legal guidanceoriginal source
Read the result as a structured version of what you said, not as a measurement of you.
Why these questions carry no evidence
Every questionnaire in this app writes its own items, because the framework behind an instrument is usually public while the published questionnaire is copyrighted. That is the honest way to build it and it has a cost worth stating plainly: reliability and validity belong to a specific set of questions given to a specific group of people, not to the name of the idea behind them. These questions have never been given to a sample, have no norms, and have no evidence that they measure what they are named after.